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15 Things College Women Should NEVER Feel Ashamed About

No shame in your game, no matter what your game involves.

Sarah Lane

Aug 13, 2018

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One of the most unfortunate things about today's society is the stigma placed around sex, especially towards women. Women are not allowed to talk about sex in public and get shamed for doing literally anything related to sex—except when a guy wants to hook up with them.

Here's the thing, ladies, you should NEVER feel ashamed for being a sexual being or for doing anything related to sex, including the following:

1. Getting tested for an STD.

This is the SAFEST thing you can do. Having an STD can lead to a lot of issues, so hold your head high and get it done. No one should shame you for taking care of your health.

2. Picking up your free condoms at the health center.

Um, free stuff is amazing. What's even more amazing? Free protection for the sex you're having. Having safe sex is the best way to go and if you can have safe sex for free, there's no reason for you to be ashamed of picking up your condoms and going. Carry 'em with pride, girlfriend.

3. Asking for something in the bedroom.

You are allowed to have wants. You are allowed to have needs. The guy you're hooking up with isn't afraid to ask you to give him a blowjob or get on top or whatever, so you don't need to fear asking for something. This is key for you to have a good time!

4. Wanting to use a condom during sex.

Once again, using protection is the best way to go. You should not have any fear taking a moment to ask your partner to use a condom. Bring one yourself if you have even the slightest hint of doubt that they won't have one so they don't have an excuse otherwise. No glove, no love, no shame.

5. Masturbating.

Guys clearly don't have any shame announcing to the world that they masturbate, so a woman shouldn't either. You have needs, and if you want to take to yourself to get it done, do it!

6. Purchasing Plan B.

So, you need to go buy Plan B. Don't sweat it, gf! It happens and there's no reason to feel awkward or ashamed. Plan B is soooo much cheaper than a baby, okay.

7. SAYING NO.

You. Are. Allowed. To. Say. No. You can say no to everything, or just say no to some things. Even if you're usually down for let's say, giving a blow job, you can decide one day you don't want to for any reason and that's NOTHING to be ashamed about! If the guy has a problem with it, dump his ass sis.

8. Hooking up with a bunch of people.

You shouldn't hang your head in fear of sharing your number. Whether you've slept with no people, three people, twelve people, or two hundred people, that's YOUR business. Do your thing, even if your thing consists of hooking up with a bunch of people.

9. Deciding not to shave your lady parts, or any parts.

If you wanna let it grow it, let it grow sister.

10. Buying sex toys.

You know that insane amount of awkward, shameful energy that just overcomes you when you walk in a sex store looking for your next purchase? Yeah, drop that shit. Whoever is working there is NOT judging you at all (odds are they've seen much worse and much, much crazier) so have no shame in making the purchases that will just make your sex life so, so much better.

11. Having a fetish.

No shame in your game, no matter what your game involves.

12. Openly talking about sex.

Listen. The stigma and uncomfortableness about talking about sex is so dumb. If you want to talk about sex, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable. Being open is a-okay.

13. Visiting your gyno.

Um, once again, you're just taking care of your health. Kudos to you for being responsible!

14. How your body looks or smells during sex.

You shouldn't feel ashamed of whatever rolls you may have on your stomach, or the freckles on your back, or how you smell *down there* during sex. Hold yourself with confidence and do the damn thing, if he can't handle a couple fat rolls he clearly shouldn't be having sex.

15. Taking (and sending!) nudes.

If you want to send a thirst trap to a bunch of people on Snapchat, DO IT! You look bomb AF, anyways.

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No shame in your game, no matter what your game involves.

1. Getting tested for an STD.

2. Picking up your free condoms at the health center.

3. Asking for something in the bedroom.

4. Wanting to use a condom during sex.

5. Masturbating.

6. Purchasing Plan B.

7. SAYING NO.

8. Hooking up with a bunch of people.

9. Deciding not to shave your lady parts, or any parts.

10. Buying sex toys.

11. Having a fetish.

12. Openly talking about sex.

13. Visiting your gyno.

14. How your body looks or smells during sex.

15. Taking (and sending!) nudes.

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And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

Obviously the best superpower.

There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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