Love Doesn't Cost A Dime...But A Man With No Ambitions Is Unattractive
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Love Doesn't Cost A Dime...But A Man With No Ambitions Is Unattractive

True love can't be bought, but a man with no life goals is un-dateable.

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Love Doesn't Cost A Dime...But A Man With No Ambitions Is Unattractive

It isn't for me to judge any person for how much money they make in a year. I don't come from the most affluent family, so I know firsthand what growing up in a household where money is tight every month is like.

With that being said, I've always aspired to live a more financially stable life than the one I lived when I was growing up. I'm currently finishing my senior year of college, and I will (hopefully) graduate with my Bachelor's Degree of Arts in English this coming May. I know that student loan repayments are going to hit my wallet hard when that time comes, and I want to make sure I can provide a life for myself that lets me cover all of my finances, but leave a little wiggle room as well.

But, what does all of this background have to do with men?

Well, I want to start off by saying the most important aspect of any relationship to me is the connection between two people. At its core, I want to be with a man who I can truly connect with, and share every single part of myself with. I personally think that one of the most attractive qualities in a man is his sense of ambition. I tend to be a very ambitious and goal-oriented person myself, and I know I need a man who can match my energy.

However, because of the fact that I've grown up in a family that has had to make some financial sacrifices and has come up financially short sometimes, making sure I'm in a life situation where I have enough money to go around is incredibly important to me and I want to be with, and build a life with, a man who happens to share the same goals as I do.

I'm not going to say that a man in a less than ideal financial situation is one I wouldn't date because I understand that sometimes there just isn't enough money to go around.

But, honestly speaking, if a man wants to have any kind of long-term relationship with me, then I need to know he's got more life goals in mind than staying at a job he hates or settling for an income comprised of Uber Driving and Pizza Making.

(I'm not downgrading these jobs by any means, I'm just speaking from a personal preference standpoint here).

Ultimately though, if I meet and fall soul-to-soul in love with a man who is financially down on his luck, his current financial status wouldn't necessarily be a deal-breaker. But, if that man chooses to make life choices that don't lead to the level of ambition that I'm at, it's just not going to work.

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