I Fell For The Guy I Don't Always Agree With, But We're Learning To Love Our Differences

I Fell For The Guy I Don't Always Agree With, But We're Learning To Love Our Differences

I've come to love what our differences can teach me about myself and my relationship.

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Having a man who has different views as you makes every day interesting. Sometimes, dealing with a difference of interest is not always enjoyable at the moment, but in the long run, there's happiness in what he can teach me. Sometimes you can discover traits you like and dislike about yourself and about someone you love.

What did this teach me? There's something to learn from someone else's traits. it can make you transform yourself into something you strive to be.

I have no interest in any sort of home improvement/ construction projects yet my boyfriend spends most of his time working on some sort of project. I had to learn to suck it up and work alongside him.

But it also taught me the importance of PATIENCE and HARD WORK. My boyfriend is very hardworking and patient with every project. He puts so much time and effort making sure everything is perfect.

Let me tell you, I am the most impatient person ever. If I don't see immediate results or the problem isn't fixed right away, I get irritated. My boyfriend has taught me that good things take time. It's been a tough thing to learn.

However, when my boyfriend refuses to step aside from a project until he's reached an acceptable stopping point. I have to learn to take a breath and help him. He uses every situation as a teaching moment which allows me to know and understand him and his passions. Due to his impressive patience with me, he actually explains what he's doing and why it has to be done. It not only teaches me valuable information, but it makes me feel included in something he has a passion for. I never thought I'd be slightly interested in my boyfriend's numerous home improvement projects but I actually start to find myself admiring his work and being anxious for the next time I can work alongside him. Watching him do what he loves and succeed definitely makes me proud.

On the flip side, I've definitely taught my boyfriend some traits that are important to me. For me, I have to have a partner who is equally as accepting as I am. I am a pretty laid back and understanding person; not caring what others do as long as they are happy.

Although our difference of opinions sometimes causes a bit of controversy. At the end of the day, we both can admit agreeing to disagree. What I love about having a man with a strong opinion is that I am forced to see both sides of situations. A lot of times we get stuck in our ways and mindsets that we completely shut out every other viewpoint. I can tell you that I most definitely appreciate being put in my place. We both question each other about what the truth REALLY is and if our opinions are just a bias. Our difference in opinions allows us to discuss deep topics and get to know each other at a more personable level.

Of course, when you're dating someone you have to come to some sort of an agreement on things and we most certainly do. After discussing, we either agree to disagree or compromise. When we compromise, we both understand that we both make valid points that the other person could value from understanding. I think we both respect each other enough to patiently speak to one another about our beliefs. I love discussing topics and seeing where each of us stand on it.

Overall, I believe every bad side of me can ultimately be a good thing. Similarly, I believe every good side of me also has a bad side. Relationships are based on give-and-take-balance. Relationships mean growth within yourself and with each other. We never compromise our interests and we stay true to ourselves by sharing a part of ourselves with each other.

I'm so lucky to experience this with the one I love.

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11 Things The Man You Love Should Do For You, No Questions Asked

Sometimes it's just the simple things in life that mean a lot.

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Every girl feels special when the guy she's dating does simple things for her that not everyone thinks about. Here's a list of 10 things that every girl genuinely appreciates.

1. Open/Hold the door

I feel like this one is really simple because everyone has to walk through doors. Chivalry isn't dead, let him open the door for you. He's not trying to prove that you can't do it for yourself, but he's trying to be polite and show you that he cares for you.

2. Give you really big hugs

Everyone has bad days, and sometimes you just need a really big hug. Whether it be a bear hug or the hug where he picks you up and spins you around, it will make you feel better in the long run.

3. Buy you really small gifts

One of the best things my boyfriend has ever done for me is simply bringing me a Dr. Pepper when he knows I'm tired from a long hard day full of exams or work. Sonic slushes will also make my day in a heartbeat.

4. Text/Call you just to tell you he loves you

This is pretty simple. It takes less than 10 seconds to text, and only a few minutes to call. Sometimes you get these texts right at the perfect moment, and it makes you feel so much better.

5. Come see you when you're sick

Everyone hates being sick. But seeing your friends and family while you're sick can make you feel so much better. Having your boyfriend come to see you and possibly even take care of you just makes being sick that much easier.

6. Respect your decisions

You're not married yet, so your decisions are up to you! He should respect the decisions you make and support you, even if it's not what he thinks is the best decision. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else!

7. Give you a shoulder to cry on

We all have bad days, and sometimes you just can't stop the tears from coming. Even if he's not good with crying, he should give you hugs and love to help you get through it.

8. Compliment you

Even if you look horrible and know so, hopefully, he'll still tell you that you look good. Even if the clothes you're wearing aren't his style, he should still tell you that they look good on you and that you are beautiful each and every day.

9. Call you when you're away or he's away

If you're like me, I miss my boyfriend after being away for about three hours, so when we're apart for more than a couple days, I love getting random calls from him when he knows I'm not busy. It's definitely better than a text.

10. Deal with all your annoying quirks

So if you're anything like me, you enjoy screaming music as loudly and horribly as you can in the car and making a complete fool of yourself, but he should love you for that anyway. I also love to take really stupid pictures, and he should put up with that too. He shouldn't be annoyed by your quirks, he should love them and laugh along with you.

11. Love you no matter what

I honestly feel like this goes without saying, but I put it on here so that the girls who don't feel like they're being loved no matter what can realize. He should want to work out problems with you instead of calling it quits and holding a grudge. He should want you to be happy and support you in every decision you make in life. When he loves you unconditionally, he will do all of the above things and more.

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If You View Being In A Relationship As 'Losing Your Freedom,' You’re In The Wrong Relationship

Someone had to say it.

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Relationships are about being the best possible version of yourself separate and together. They're about growing with and doing life alongside your partner. They're fun, loving, and granted, they can sometimes be challenging.

Some challenges that frequently come up in relationships are disagreements (which are for sure gonna happen, because you're two individual people!), dealing with stress, and depending on where you're at in life, it could also be financial struggles. Of course, all relationships are going to have problems and everything won't always be “rainbows and butterflies" as Maroon 5 like to put it.

That being said though, one challenge that shouldn't ever be an issue in a relationship is the loss of freedom. Where did this idea come from?

I see it all the time, people talking about not wanting to get into a relationship because they don't want to "lose their freedom".

If you are in a relationship which causes you to lose your freedom, you are 100% in the wrong relationship.

Being in a relationship is not synonymous with not being able to be yourself or be able to do what you want. In a good relationship, you will be able to still have your alone time, be your own person, hang out with your friends, the list goes on and on. All of these things are so important. Relationships should never consume your life, they should complement it.

Why is this even a conversation we need to be having? Seriously.

Now obviously if you're referring to losing the option of getting with other people or dating around, then yes, you're right, you absolutely shouldn't get into a relationship... but that doesn't mean relationships mean losing your freedom.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love and respect, getting with other people isn't even going to be on your radar. It truly is that simple.

The trend of hating on relationships, for this reason, has gotten so out of hand in recent years, especially on social media. It's so frustrating, though, because it could not be any more inaccurate.

You should absolutely still have freedom in relationships. You can have it. I for one absolutely have it and do not view my relationship as the loss of freedom, at all. If you don't, maybe evaluate that relationship and realize it's not the best one to be in.

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