I Fell For The Guy I Don't Always Agree With, But We're Learning To Love Our Differences

I Fell For The Guy I Don't Always Agree With, But We're Learning To Love Our Differences

I've come to love what our differences can teach me about myself and my relationship.

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Having a man who has different views as you makes every day interesting. Sometimes, dealing with a difference of interest is not always enjoyable at the moment, but in the long run, there's happiness in what he can teach me. Sometimes you can discover traits you like and dislike about yourself and about someone you love.

What did this teach me? There's something to learn from someone else's traits. it can make you transform yourself into something you strive to be.

I have no interest in any sort of home improvement/ construction projects yet my boyfriend spends most of his time working on some sort of project. I had to learn to suck it up and work alongside him.

But it also taught me the importance of PATIENCE and HARD WORK. My boyfriend is very hardworking and patient with every project. He puts so much time and effort making sure everything is perfect.

Let me tell you, I am the most impatient person ever. If I don't see immediate results or the problem isn't fixed right away, I get irritated. My boyfriend has taught me that good things take time. It's been a tough thing to learn.

However, when my boyfriend refuses to step aside from a project until he's reached an acceptable stopping point. I have to learn to take a breath and help him. He uses every situation as a teaching moment which allows me to know and understand him and his passions. Due to his impressive patience with me, he actually explains what he's doing and why it has to be done. It not only teaches me valuable information, but it makes me feel included in something he has a passion for. I never thought I'd be slightly interested in my boyfriend's numerous home improvement projects but I actually start to find myself admiring his work and being anxious for the next time I can work alongside him. Watching him do what he loves and succeed definitely makes me proud.

On the flip side, I've definitely taught my boyfriend some traits that are important to me. For me, I have to have a partner who is equally as accepting as I am. I am a pretty laid back and understanding person; not caring what others do as long as they are happy.

Although our difference of opinions sometimes causes a bit of controversy. At the end of the day, we both can admit agreeing to disagree. What I love about having a man with a strong opinion is that I am forced to see both sides of situations. A lot of times we get stuck in our ways and mindsets that we completely shut out every other viewpoint. I can tell you that I most definitely appreciate being put in my place. We both question each other about what the truth REALLY is and if our opinions are just a bias. Our difference in opinions allows us to discuss deep topics and get to know each other at a more personable level.

Of course, when you're dating someone you have to come to some sort of an agreement on things and we most certainly do. After discussing, we either agree to disagree or compromise. When we compromise, we both understand that we both make valid points that the other person could value from understanding. I think we both respect each other enough to patiently speak to one another about our beliefs. I love discussing topics and seeing where each of us stand on it.

Overall, I believe every bad side of me can ultimately be a good thing. Similarly, I believe every good side of me also has a bad side. Relationships are based on give-and-take-balance. Relationships mean growth within yourself and with each other. We never compromise our interests and we stay true to ourselves by sharing a part of ourselves with each other.

I'm so lucky to experience this with the one I love.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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