With the assumption that we’re all in college, it’s easy to say that us girls know the run down. The term “Ring By Spring” refers to when your friends are getting engaged and some are even starting families. The second you tell a friend you’re single, they give you 5 names of people they could set you up with. Of course it’s all with good intentions and out of love, but singleness has become something that people feel the need to cure, rather than support in this time of growth. It puts a tremendous amount of pressure on us single ladies, on something that we aren’t even in charge of.

Because it’s not our job to pick out our future spouses.

It’s God job. And guess what? He already has him picked out and he’s working on him this very second. He is being molded and shaped into loving God more than anything in this world. Never ever settle for any man who loves you more than Jesus (Sorry, I know we all love to be the center of attention). If he has Jesus at the center of his heart, he will try his hardest to love like Him, and there is not greater love than that. The guy is out there, and if you pray and delight yourself in the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4).

Your only job right now is to love Jesus and be faithful.

He has it all under control, and there is nothing you need to worry about. I know how stressful it might be, seeing all your friends in relationships and starting their lives together. You might be asking God “When will it be my turn?” and then running your mind nonstop into thinking you’ll be by yourself forever, but know this, God places those dreams and desires to have a family and a relationship in your heart on purpose. Not everyone feels that way, and those are God-given needs that He gave specifically to you. So until he fulfills those desires, all you need to do is fall in love with Him first.

Let Him show you what true love really feels like.

Let Him guide you, and make you into the person you were meant to be. Let Him show you His unfailing love, that is never ending and steadfast. I know you might feel lonely, but now is the perfect moment to spend that free time with God. Talk to Him about how you feel, when you’re stuck being a third wheel, tired of being alone, or just frustrated in His timing. He has something to teach you in each of those moments, and you will grow in a new way because of it.

You will find that the love of Jesus fills you in a way that no relationship ever has, and it’s one of the most amazing feelings. His love will be overflowing, and you will find peace in knowing that He holds your heart and there is nothing for you to worry about. He has a plan and longs to see us happy and content. All we need to do is trust in Him, accept His love, and watch as His beautiful plan unfolds right in front of our eyes. Love Him first, and you'll be confident in knowing that you're ready to love someone else when the time comes.