If He Won’t Post You On His Insta, Sis, You’re Wasting Your Time

If He Won’t Post You On His Insta, Sis, You’re Wasting Your Time

So he posted a picture with you, but didn't tag you... that's a red flag.


Over the years, I wasted a lot of time chasing people, and I mean, haven't we all?

There is always some part of us that keeps us believing that eventually if we stick with it, they might come around, but... it never happened. We could use all the plays in the book: hard-to-get, wearing red, and even claiming them with cute pictures on social media (my personal go-to), but let's face it, if they weren't feelin' it then they just weren't feeling it.

If this sounds familiar, then here's the good news—today is the day we are going to set you free from this trap.

Don't be like me, wasting your time on someone who doesn't show they care isn't just a bummer, but it's holding you back. For one, it's holding you back from someone who will make you the start of their show. Every minute you pine for someone who doesn't appreciate you is a moment you could be out there finding someone who can appreciate you and make you happy. And two, it's holding you back from spending your precious time on doing you and living your best life. Don't let that be you.

So yes, it's time for you to quit spending your time pining when you should be out there shining. The first step is to start getting real about the social media red flags someone is waving that tell you they are less then what you deserve.

1. He doesn't let you follow him 

Ok, this is a given. If he won't let you follow him, block him, right now, I'll wait. Did you do it? Good. If a potential S.O. is hesitant to accept your follow request, he's hiding something and that's no way to start a relationship. Whether it's a girlfriend back home or a couple of unwarranted MAGA posts, he's gotta go.

2. Refusing to post pictures with you

If instead of posting the cute couple candid of you two swooning he posts a friend group picture where he's mid-sneeze, that's a no-go. For one, he could have other chicks he's trying to hide you from OR he's just not that into you. Boys know IG official is a thing, don't let him rope you into this childish game.

3. Yay, he posted a picture with you, but he didn't tag you

This is the biggest red flag in the book. You go from being S.O. potential with a brain and bangin' personality to just a hot side-piece to up their IG game. If he can't tag your name then he is way less then you deserve, and you should untag him ASAP.

When it comes to relationships, it is so easy to glorify the good moments while dismissing anything that looks bad. When in reality if someone likes you it'll will all feel pretty dang good.

Sometimes we hang on so tight to someone, we don't realize it's only us making the effort and I know, it's hard to hear that someone you care about may feel differently than you—I won't ignore that—but in a weird way, do yourself a favor. You know that you can do better, you deserve better, and you should never settle for less.

Literally, so hot RN

Literally, so hot RN

Cuffing Season May Have Ended But That Doesn't Mean My Shot At Love Has Gone With It

Hurt leads to happiness, never stop looking for it


This time last month, I thought I'd met a guy who would put an end to my vacant cuffing season. He checked off every box on my list and created new ones to add to it. I was in a daze and things went fast and I was perfectly fine with that. Voices in one ear said be careful, while voices in another said go for it. I let my guard down, and I got played, it's as simple as that. He got what he was after. It stung and it still does. He took a part of me with him through the door, and I don't think I'll ever get that back.

I am still coping, but I'm better than I was when it happened just two weeks ago. I'm ready to get back up on my horse and ride the trail of single life confidently again. Some may say cuffing season is over, but I have to disagree. I refuse to give up on the search for a relationship and neither should you.

Some people find their person earlier than others, and while I am jealous of that, I have to remember to remind myself that there's someone out there for everyone. He's probably figuring out life, just like I am, maybe wondering where the girl of his dreams is. I'll never know what he's up to, but I'm sure he's probably going through or has gone through similar issues. If I give up, and consume myself with the fact that I always end up single and will be forever, I'll never get anywhere in life. I know my worth and the right person will see that and snatch me up. In the meantime, there is no need to just sit around and wait for him to show up.

I'm a work in progress waiting for the mechanic to oil me up and set me free. I'm free, but I want someone to be free with if that makes sense. Yes, I'm struggling with some self-image issues at the moment, but everyone has their struggles. I'm at peace with the woman I am and am proud of how far I've come in my almost twenty-one years I've been on this Earth. You and I, we don't need to be with anyone who's anything less than what we want.

You deserve the moon and the stars and everything that lies beyond. You are priceless, and don't let anyone make you feel differently. Relationships are meant to develop as their destined to, so forcing anything won't work in anyone's favor. That being said, be open and honest with who you talk to, and let yourself be hurt. Hurt leads to happiness, whether we see it that way at the moment or not.

I've had my moments of hoping that boy will message me again, professing how sorry he is, and asking for another chance. I'm a forgiving person, so I try and hear everyone out, even if it's against my better judgment. I know that this trial is just leading on to someone better, and I refuse to let myself give up because a few busybodies think cuffing season is over.

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Having A 'Talking Stage' Proves Why Millennials Just Suck At Dating

Because who actually "commits" in 2019?


As a millennial who is currently in college, I've noticed that dating isn't how it used to be like back in 1995. We are the generation that can't live without our phones, are tech-savvy, and sadly, the ones who suck at dating.

This is not another bitter article because I "don't have a man," or I'm "jealous of what people have." In fact, I am actually in a good place and I am speaking on behalf of what I've seen. I'm tired of my friends coming up to me crying because their "man-who-isn't-really-their-man" isn't acting right.

I've seen more friends with benefits and flings rather than relationships.

Maybe I'm different, but I can't imagine just being around someone only to have sex. After a while, that gets extremely boring and if you have nothing else to offer, you just get "ghosted" instead of telling that person how you really feel.

See, in my opinion, that's the problem with this generation. Sex is considered meaningless now and it is basically easy to get. With all of these dating apps swirling around, it's almost impossible to avoid it. People would rather have meaningless sex than get to know a person and commit. It's like every time the word "commitment" or "relationship" is brought up, that person runs away. But they're so comfortable to have sex.

What really irritates me is that after two weeks, a lot of guys, in particular, get mad when a girl asks him to get rid of his "hoes" or "other girls he's talking to," but still expect a girl to drop their pants after talking to them for two hours.

That's another thing too. Let's talk about the "talking stage." So basically, by INFORMAL definition, the "talking stage" is basically when two people just TALK before dating. Did you make a face yet? Because that exists now. But seriously, talking about WHAT honestly? Don't you do that when you're I don't know, DATING? And even during the talking stage, people still have sex, which makes no sense to me. You guys aren't dating but you're not dealing with anyone else. In fact, they'll get mad when you're hooking up with someone else. And when you start to catch feelings, it ends with "Oh, I'm not ready for a relationship right now."

So what exactly are we doing then?

Wasting my time?

Imagine filling out a relationship status on a ballot or something and the options are; "single," "married," "widowed," or "we're talking." And no, that's not what "it's complicated" is for.

It's sad because I feel as if this generation forgot how to love again. There are many people who are currently in relationships who are lucky. But for the rest of this generation, people would rather bang it out then talk it out. And people would rather "talk" than "date." I mean, what's wrong with both? If you're happy with what you are doing, then do what ever you want girl! If you are in this situation and you're unhappy, then what exactly do you want? Attention is nice, but after a while, if that person isn't really fulfilling your needs, what's the point of being with them then?

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