Now that it's officially cuffing season again, everyone is ready to get into a cute relationship. This very likely means your ex is going to come crawling out of the cave they've been hiding in and hit you with that "hey" text randomly. Because you too are interested in looking for something a little more serious at the moment, your mind may quickly jump to texting them back.
Take a moment and step back, sit down your Pumpkin Spice Latte and your iPhone before you type out that response because I have one thing to tell you:
If your ex texts you, remember the best response is no response.
It doesn't matter if it's cuffing season or the heat of July, there is NEVER a good time to get back with your ex. They're an ex for a reason. Remember when they cheated on you? Or how they never wanted to set aside the time to get to know your family? Or how all they ever wanted was sex? Yeah, I know you remember that, even if you say you don't, and by texting them back, you're setting yourself up for that cycle once again.
Nine times out of ten, people DON'T change. Thinking that your ex is this completely new person who is absolutely perfect for you is honestly kind of foolish. All you're doing by texting your ex back is setting yourself up to fall right into them again. Do people deserve second chances? In some cases, yeah, but when it comes to your ex, probably not. Otherwise, you two would've just taken a break, not completely broken up.
When you text your ex back, you're bringing back all of the feelings that you had when you were with them. It doesn't matter if you two broke up a month or a year ago, those old feelings will come creeping in when you see their name pop across your phone again. And if you're an intelligent being, you know damn well that feeding into them and replying will do nothing more than make those feelings get deeper and deeper.
You deserve a love so much greater than what your ex gave you. You deserve someone who is your best friend in every way. You deserve a love that never makes you doubt that you are worthy. In all honesty, you ex will never give that to you. All you'll get out of texting your ex is one subpar night of sex and a couple more months of heartache.
Don't text your ex back. You're so much better than that.