5 Long Distance Valentine's Day Ideas For The 5 Love Languages

5 Long Distance Valentine's Day Ideas For The 5 Love Languages

Make them feel special no matter how far they are or how they receive love.
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Long Distance relationships are hard enough as it is, but they are so much harder when you miss out on spending special days with the person you love. Valentine's Day, a whole day dedicated to celebrating love, is no exception.

How do you still make your S.O. feel special when you can't spend the day with them?

As a long distance couple, it is important to communicate what makes each of you feel loved. Knowing your primary love languages is a perfect place to start! If you don't know what your love languages, there are plenty of free online tests! Try 5 Love Languages Quiz.

Once you know you and your partner's love languages, try out some of these Valentine's Day ideas to give them all the warm fuzzies this February 14th!

1. Quality Time: Learn something new

This one is different, but hear me out. If both of you want to try something or practice a new skill, do it together! You both want to try yoga? Look up some poses and make a competition out of who can do them better! You both want to learn how to paint? You can both tune into the same episode of Bob Ross and paint some "happy little clouds!"

One of you wants to know more about something the other knows a lot about? No problem! One of my favorite dates my boyfriend and I have ever done is when I wanted to brush up on my baseball knowledge. We both tuned in to the same concentrated game he found on youtube and he pointed things out that I should know and I asked questions.

Spending time learning and growing together is a great way to connect and bond that isn't just sitting on a video call and asking about each other's days.

2. Receiving Gifts: Send each other something

This one is obvious, but I kept the section broad for a reason!

There is so much room for personalization with gift giving, that you can really set their heart aflutter. This can be a mutual exchange or it could be a little extra surprise to show them how much you care. We are not people who are big on gifts, but they are nice every once in a while! One Valentine's Day, I sent my boyfriend a heart-shaped pizza, and we both got a laugh out of it.

Need Ideas? See if any of these articles get the ball rolling:

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3. Physical Touch: Watch a movie together

This one is the hardest out of all of the love languages because you are obviously too far to actually touch them! Watching a movie together is basically the closest you can get to "Netflix and Chill" when you 2,000 miles away from each other. Now, Skype has a feature that allows you to share your screen and audio with the other person.

Snuggle up with a teddy bear or your favorite pillow and you will hardly notice that your partner isn't there with you-- or at least it will be the next best thing.

4. Acts of Service: Involve their friends

Who said that Valentine's Day is just for romantic couples?

This is especially fun if your S.O. has roommates. Send the friend little gifts, handwritten notes, or whatever else, and ask them to set them out for your partner or create a little scavenger hunt out of them.

Another way to do this is to pay for the two of them to go do something together. As long as they are taken care of and feel loved, it doesn't matter if you are the one to accompany them! The effort that you and their friend put into making this day special for you will show!

5. Words of Affirmation: Write them a mushy love letter

There is a reason that people have been doing this for years!

Write down all the things you love about them, all the things you miss about them, all the things they do that you are proud of, and all the things you can't wait to do with them in the future. In a digital world, it can be really exciting to get things in your mailbox that aren't bills or junk mail.

If you don't have time to write them a letter and send it in time, read it to them. Hearing those words come from your mouth will mean so much more than reading it from a screen.

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An Open Letter To The Girl In A Toxic Relationship Who Doesn't See The Signs To Let Go

"it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing" -R.H Sin

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Dear you,

I hope you're doing well. I once thought I was too. I once thought that if he would just change, for me, everything would work. However, my sweet girl, you should not have to change people, you should not have to push people to be better, for you. You cannot help anyone, that does not want to help themselves.

In the movies, we learn to love a bad boy that needs changing. However, it isn't always your job to be boys saving grace. However, his shaming and emotional abuse is not just something you should put up with so that you can love him. That is not loving.

Love is not a constant competition of who could belittle the other one first. Love is not asking for a hug and being told no. Love does not make you feel stupid for bringing up things that hurt your feelings.

Love does not grow angry because you talk to your mom about your feelings. Love does not body shame. Love does not constantly change the passcode to their phone.

Love does not laugh when you find out they're unfaithful. Love does not tell you that you are not smart enough to accomplish anything. Love does not force their hand up your thigh when the words "no" slip out of your mouth.

Love is the warmth of a hand on your cheek when you get anxious. Love is getting your backpack out the car for you. Love is turning around when you need them. Love compromises.

Love is encouraging. Love is proud. Love is forgiving. Love sees you for who you are. Love knows you are worthy.

God is your Father and you are His daughter, so do not believe for one second that this abuse is the love you think you deserve.

Love will not always be easy. Love will be challenging and a constant prayer to not anger so quickly.

However, do not mix up challenging with the abuse. If you are losing the good pieces of yourself, then it isn't love. I know that you put a lot of time and effort into this relationship, but it is no good, you are holding on to someone whose heart is not in the right place to love you.

I connected with a poem from R. H. Sin, once I left my toxic relationship which reads, "it took letting go to realize that I was holding onto nothing."

Darling girl, you are so loved by so many people, do not let this relationship hold you back or make you feel less worthy than you are. I have always been the girl with her nose stuck up in the air smelling for smoke, to follow the trail to a burning house to find a boy that needed saving, but it is more than likely a boy that lit the fire in the first place and needs changing.

So, do not be me, be better. Be the girl that lights her own world on fire, for her work, for her family, for God. You are you and you are amazing, so do not fear being without him.

You will feel as if you have come up for air after drowning in an ocean that you had no idea you were swimming in.

The emotional abuse that this boy has put you through and maybe even physical abuse will leave you building walls around your heart. It will make other relationships hard, but you are so so strong.

You will meet someone that makes you so happy and feel so easy to love, you will never understand how you stuck around with the one that hurt you for so long.

You deserve to grow from this, and I promise you will.

Let go.

xoxo,

The girl who learned from a toxic relationship

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Being Far Away From My Boyfriend Actually Strengthened Our Relationship Instead Of Forcing It Apart

While we were apart, we became closer.

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Before I really start this article, I just want to say that my relationship isn't truly a long distance relationship. We are both college students at the same university eight months out of the year, but the other four months we live quite a distance apart. Even during those four months, we are only about 150 miles from each other as the bird flies, but really about three hours from each other.

Being in a relationship where I'm not able to see my boyfriend every day or even every week has been a real challenge. But it's been a good challenge. It hasn't been a challenge because I've felt unfaithful or fallen out of love with him in any way. It's challenging because I miss him. We both work jobs and our schedules aren't the same and oftentimes we aren't able to talk to each other unless it's early in the morning or late at night. There are times when all I want to do is talk to him and tell him about how my day went and get a big bear hug from him. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to do this.

I firmly believe that being apart from each other for days, weeks, or even months have brought us closer than we could've ever imagined. We knew that this would be difficult, and we knew that there would be bad days, but we decided to power through it. It has made each time that we are able to see each other so much more special and meaningful.

Seeing each other has become more of spending time with each other than just laying around on the couch playing around on our phones. It's become really getting to know each other better and catching up on all the things we had missed. It's become a time for us to simply be in each other's presence and enjoy being able to talk face to face without a phone in the middle of us. We go on more adventurous dates, we take more pictures, and I think we would both easily say that we fall more and more in love with each other after each opportunity we have to spend time together.

Spending time together is no longer a daily activity, but it has become a right to be earned through hard work and several paychecks as travel can become expensive. We no longer take opportunities to see each other for granted, and it has made us grow closer because we aren't able to spend time together often. We look forward to the days when we won't have to worry about being apart but know that this is only a stepping stone in our relationship.

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