5 Long Distance Valentine's Day Ideas For The 5 Love Languages

5 Long Distance Valentine's Day Ideas For The 5 Love Languages

Make them feel special no matter how far they are or how they receive love.

Long Distance relationships are hard enough as it is, but they are so much harder when you miss out on spending special days with the person you love. Valentine's Day, a whole day dedicated to celebrating love, is no exception.

How do you still make your S.O. feel special when you can't spend the day with them?

As a long distance couple, it is important to communicate what makes each of you feel loved. Knowing your primary love languages is a perfect place to start! If you don't know what your love languages, there are plenty of free online tests! Try 5 Love Languages Quiz.

Once you know you and your partner's love languages, try out some of these Valentine's Day ideas to give them all the warm fuzzies this February 14th!

1. Quality Time: Learn something new

This one is different, but hear me out. If both of you want to try something or practice a new skill, do it together! You both want to try yoga? Look up some poses and make a competition out of who can do them better! You both want to learn how to paint? You can both tune into the same episode of Bob Ross and paint some "happy little clouds!"

One of you wants to know more about something the other knows a lot about? No problem! One of my favorite dates my boyfriend and I have ever done is when I wanted to brush up on my baseball knowledge. We both tuned in to the same concentrated game he found on youtube and he pointed things out that I should know and I asked questions.

Spending time learning and growing together is a great way to connect and bond that isn't just sitting on a video call and asking about each other's days.

2. Receiving Gifts: Send each other something

This one is obvious, but I kept the section broad for a reason!

There is so much room for personalization with gift giving, that you can really set their heart aflutter. This can be a mutual exchange or it could be a little extra surprise to show them how much you care. We are not people who are big on gifts, but they are nice every once in a while! One Valentine's Day, I sent my boyfriend a heart-shaped pizza, and we both got a laugh out of it.

Need Ideas? See if any of these articles get the ball rolling:

Gift Ideas For Boyfriends/Girlfriends

Gift Ideas That'll Blow Her Mind This Valentine's Day

10 Valentine's Day Gifts Your Boyfriend Will Love

5 Unconventional Valentine's Day Gifts That Are Sure To Leave An Impression

3. Physical Touch: Watch a movie together

This one is the hardest out of all of the love languages because you are obviously too far to actually touch them! Watching a movie together is basically the closest you can get to "Netflix and Chill" when you 2,000 miles away from each other. Now, Skype has a feature that allows you to share your screen and audio with the other person.

Snuggle up with a teddy bear or your favorite pillow and you will hardly notice that your partner isn't there with you-- or at least it will be the next best thing.

4. Acts of Service: Involve their friends

Who said that Valentine's Day is just for romantic couples?

This is especially fun if your S.O. has roommates. Send the friend little gifts, handwritten notes, or whatever else, and ask them to set them out for your partner or create a little scavenger hunt out of them.

Another way to do this is to pay for the two of them to go do something together. As long as they are taken care of and feel loved, it doesn't matter if you are the one to accompany them! The effort that you and their friend put into making this day special for you will show!

5. Words of Affirmation: Write them a mushy love letter

There is a reason that people have been doing this for years!

Write down all the things you love about them, all the things you miss about them, all the things they do that you are proud of, and all the things you can't wait to do with them in the future. In a digital world, it can be really exciting to get things in your mailbox that aren't bills or junk mail.

If you don't have time to write them a letter and send it in time, read it to them. Hearing those words come from your mouth will mean so much more than reading it from a screen.

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Subtle Ways You May Be Disrespecting Your Friend's Relationship

If they make your friend happy, you shouldn't be doing these things.


No ones significant other wants to tell them they don't like their friends. And trying to tell anyone not to hang out with the people they're closest too is a disaster waiting to happen.

Some people really just don't like their friend's partner, but others have no idea the damage they may be doing to the relationship. If you are more aware of some things to avoid, hopefully, you, your friend, and their partner can all get along in peace.

1. When you see your friend, make sure to acknowledge their partner.

To be honest, this is a basic courtesy. If you go to say hi to anyone in a group of people, it is polite to greet, or at least acknowledge, everyone there. If you completely ignore that your friend's partner is even there, it will make them feel awkward and neglected. Just say hi.

2. Don't be overly touchy-feely with your friend, especially around their partner.

Obviously, this mostly applies to friends of the opposite sex (for heterosexual couples). Look, there is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but just know your boundaries. You may think your friend's partner is being jealous for no reason, but are you doing anything that might make them uncomfortable?

You don't need to always have your arm around them or be leaned up against them. It is really inappropriate to kiss them on the cheek or give them super long hugs, even if that is something you did before they had a partner, and even if it is completely platonic.

You can still hug and be close to your friend, just be respectful of their boundaries. If you don't give their partner any reason to be jealous then they will have no basis to dislike you.

3. If you invite your friend somewhere, it is polite to also invite their partner.

Even if you assume your friend's partner is going to come, it is nice to make them feel welcomed. And if you don't want their partner to come, make sure they are not together or planning to be together when you invite your friend.

You don't have to always have their partner around, but don't make it a habit of not inviting them. If they don't feel welcomed around their partner's friends, then they probably won't feel as confident in their relationship.

4. Don't ever bring up your friend's past relationships, especially around their partner.

Even if they are on good terms. Even if you are still friends with their ex. Just don't bring them up. No one wants to hear about their partner's past relationships or flings. It is embarrassing and uncomfortable to have to hear about your partner's exes.

5. If you are all out together, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There is a good chance that if you are out with your friend and their partner, their partner does not know many people there. If that is the case, don't try to separate your friend from their partner.

There may be an exception if their partner has friends around too, or if they are outgoing and can talk to anybody easily, but otherwise, it is really awkward to be in that situation alone. They are with their partner for a reason, and it is nice to make their partner feel included as well.

Just don't make it a habit to always pull your friend away.

6. Don't put your friend in any awkward or risky situations.

If your friend is a cheater, that is not really any fault of yours. But don't be the friend who is known for putting your partnered friend in risky situations.

There is nothing wrong with going out occasionally with your friends, but it does not need to be a regular occurrence, especially if it makes their partner uncomfortable.

Along the same lines, if you know an ex-partner or fling will be there, you don't need to put your friend in that awkward situation. Just be aware of the situation and how it might make their partner feel.

To wrap up, you don't need to completely change your relationship with your friend just to make their partner happy; just make sure to be polite and respectful of their partner and their relationship.

These are some subtle things you may be doing that are hurting your friend's relationship that you don't even realize have negative consequences. Simply be more aware of some of these situations and how they could potentially make your friend's partner feel. After all, the best relationships are the ones where your partner's friends also become your friends.

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My BF And I Were 'Just Friends' And Now We're Celebrating Our One Year Anniversary

Dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.


In August 2017, Brendan and I met. A group of friends invited him and me to go to Wendy's after a meeting for a school club. We talked the whole time — the conversation seemed endless in the best way possible. Later that night, I called him to ask him what water balloons I should buy for a celebration the next day. From that day forward, I cannot remember a day where I have not called him. It started off as nothing more as a platonic relationship from my perspective, but he would advocate otherwise.

Fast-forward to January 2018, Brendan and I started seeing each other outside of school. We would make up excuses and white lies to our friends and parents, saying that we were going to the library to study when really we would just sit in the parking lot and talk for hours until he had to drive me home. He became my best friend. I wanted to tell him everything — good news, bad news, stupid rants, my blonde moments, random and unfiltered thoughts. However, day-in and day-out, I kept denying that it was anything more than a friendship. Again, he would argue otherwise.

On April 27, 2018, I gave in.

We were sitting in his parked Dodge Durango, listening to a pop radio station. I was leaning over the center console to rest my head on his shoulder, and we were waiting for the sun to go down at a park. Abruptly, I looked over at him and ironically asked if he would be my boyfriend. For some reason, we did not tell our family or friends for about a month (sorry, Mum and Dad). I wish I would have realized it sooner, but regardless of timing, dating my best friend was the best decision I have ever made.

Christmas 2018Olivia Zidzik

Since then, our relationship has overcome insane distances.

Being 12 miles away turned into 1,601 miles when he went on a service trip to Boca Chica in the Dominican Republic this past summer. It went back to 12 miles for a little while. However, at the end of the summer, it turned into 413 miles when I moved to the University of Kentucky. In October, we were only a few feet apart as I hid behind his car in his school parking lot to surprise him. After I have returned and left home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and spring break, he decided it was time for him to come to Lexington in March 2019.

All the time spent together and apart brings us to our one year — April 27, 2019.

Hey, Brendan: Although we will be 413 miles apart for it, happy one-year. You have been my rock and my best friend for the past 20-some months, and there are not enough thank you's that I can say to express how thankful I am that God put you in my life. I am so beyond grateful and appreciative for everything you have done and sacrificed for me and for us. I cannot wait to see where our journey will go next, but until then — here's to me and you. I love you. See you very very soon.

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