Being In Love Isn't Enough To Get Married During College

Being In Love Isn't Enough To Get Married During College

When you say forever, I really hope you mean it.

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If you want to get married in college, that's your decision.

Logically, though, it makes no sense to get married during college. A human brain does not develop fully until the age of 25, therefore, making huge life decisions before that point could lead to it being a mistake. You might question and ask then why does society make us pick our career during college? If you are enrolled in college, you are signed up to further your education and you can drop out at any point if you decide you aren't ready. Marriage, however, you can't just drop out and re-enroll when you need to.

I accept others who decided to get married during college because at the end of the day it is your life and you can do whatever you want. I have many good friends that have the desire to get married during college and good for them. That just isn't me. I have had my fair share of relationships during both high school and college, and none of these have ever changed my opinion. Yes, maybe I could have seen myself marrying a couple of them, but being in a relationship or being single has never changed my opinion on getting married in college.

Majority of the time, a college student can't even keep up with themselves between school, jobs, extracurricular activities, social events, and so much more. College is where you meet some of your best friends and make connections that can span over your whole lifetime. Those aren't the only things that come with college, sometimes a deal-breaker comes around with the name of debt.

Finances are a huge aspect to think about when you get married. Marrying somebody with a ton of debt can fall back on you and even ruin your own finances. If you get married in college, you can't even think about finances BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE ANY. You haven't had time to go live on your own, get your own career started, and be completely independent yet.

My mom always told me "do everything YOU want to do in life before you get married" because when you get married you lose your independence to a certain degree. You have to tell your spouse everything you are doing, and they expect themselves to be your No. 1 priority which is the way it should be when you are married. Your early 20s are not for that. That time of your life is for making the best memories ever, making time about yourself, doing things that you never thought you would do.

There is such a rush in life nowadays. Everybody wants to be the first one to marry, the first one to pop out a kid, the first one to do everything. Why? To me, I would get so bored. If you get married, have a kid, get a job, buy your first house, and buy your first car all before the age of 25... what the hell do you have to look forward to? Life is so much more exciting when you have something else to look forward to in life.

I understand the thought of waking up and falling asleep with your "best friend" every day is exciting to some people. You have the rest of your life to do that, approximately 60 years of doing that if you get married in college.

So enjoy your independence, and slow it down.

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To My Future Fiance, If You’re Proposing To Me For The Instagram Content, Have Fun Posting A Video Of Me Saying ‘No’

Whoever you are, take notes for future reference.

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OK, OK, he can propose to me in public, but if it's a grand event that has nothing to do with my character, then 100% I'm saying, "No, try again."

I hope that one day someone special has my heart and wants to spend the rest of their life with me. But I want them to really know who I am. Inside and out and all around. I'm not a showy person, I'm not into social media, and I don't want a 20-carat ring. There's nothing wrong with any of those things, but it's never been for me. It's just not me.

I'm never going to do anything because someone else or the general society thinks or says I should do it. I like to defy society and do what's best for me. Even if I do something that is acceptable by society's standards, I'm not doing it for them, I'm doing it for me. I always say, "If someone wants to get to know me then they shouldn't judge what they see, read, or hear, they should just say, 'Hi,' and we can go from there." I don't post something for others to see, I post it for myself. Because it makes me feel good. Because I impulsively want to.

So, I want my fiancé's initial feeling of complete and absolute love to be blurted out to me ASAP. You don't have to keep your passions hidden while you plan a huge fiasco with balloons and confetti and "Will you marry me?" clouds in the sky. I don't need that for you to tell me you love me.

My dream proposal would be us cooking and taste tasting dinner, dancing, and singing to our favorite song when you just pause to look at me and ask, "You wanna get married?"

Of course, I'd question if you're being serious or not, but if we've already discussed the future and our hearts are in the right place, I'd melt in your arms.

You're not proposing to me to show off our love to your Facebook friends. You're proposing to me because you want nothing else but me. If you want to plan something special afterward, go ahead. Thoughtful surprises make me feel so special, but make sure that it's planned for me.

My long-distance boyfriend recently surprised me with a visit by calling my parents to figure out just how to leave me open-mouthed. I realized how much I appreciated the planning and arrangement. No one has ever done that for me before and I won't lie, I loved it. I wouldn't mind a fun proposal. I would be eternally grateful for the thought behind it, but I want the initial question to be intimate, personal, and tailored for me.

At the end of the day, sure, the proposal can be out and about in public, but I want the focus to be us. Not just me or you, but our relationship and our future. I don't care if other people don't think you love me enough because the proposal wasn't a showstopper. I know how you feel about me and that's all that matters.

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It's 2019 — You Should Live With Them BEFORE You Marry Them

Do you really know this person?

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Some people frown upon two unwed people living together because it is against their religious beliefs or other traditions.

My argument is: how do you really know that person?

I feel like you don't know who a person is until you live with them. Seeing how this person is day in and day out and how they actually live, is different than when out in public or hanging out at someone else's place.

Before heading to college, I needed to find a roommate to live with on campus. I turned to my best friend since the 5th grade. We knew each other so well, heck, we even grew up together. We decided to live together on campus and have a blast! But did we know everything about one another?

Ehhh, not exactly.

We decided that living together wasn't working out for us. Long story short, we didn't work well living in the dorms. We are still friends to this day, and get along like nothing ever happened.

But something like this makes me think about the future. I would never want to marry someone without having lived with them beforehand. No, it isn't traditional, but it is who I am. I knew my best friend at the time for about seven years when we decided to room together at college. Now applying this friendship situation to a relationship situation... people in a relationship typically don't date for seven years before tying the knot.

My point is, I am not signing a legally binding document if I don't even know who that person is.

While moving isn't particularly easy, divorce is much more cumbersome.

This isn't the case for everyone, please do what suits you best. I just know this is what I want in a future relationship.

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