A Thank You Letter To All Of The Exes I Met, And Lost, Along The Way

A Thank You Letter To All Of The Exes I Met, And Lost, Along The Way

Even though we might not have worked out in the long run, the things you have shown and taught me will last.


To my Ex, I hope you are doing well.

I really do. I hope you have found love and have grown in ways that you never felt possible.

Depending on how we parted ways this might seem odd to you. Did we part with screaming or fighting? Did we part with tears? Or did we just fade out as some things do? To me, it doesn't really matter, and that is due to a couple of key reasons. The first being that at one point in our lives, we did have feelings for each other. Now it may have not been love, but it was enough where the presence of each other made us smile. The second reason is you have taught me so much about myself, and, for better or for worse, I learned from you. The third and final reason I can never wish you ill is this, I want whatever person you end up being with to be as happy as we might have been.

So to my high school flings, hi.

I will probably see you in Fred Myers when I come home for the weekend and we will either make eye contact and smile or avoid each other completely and that is ok. Some of you are married now, congratulations! I mean that sincerely, I wish you and her the best of luck, and you guys seem so cute together. I still follow you on Facebook by the way, along with everyone else from our senior class so I promise it is not weird. Thank for helping me learn that you should never date other people after your friends have. It's never a good idea even if they say it's ok. It's just not, so thanks.

To my first real high school boyfriend, I also heard you got engaged, and I really hope you are happy and she is too.

Our relationship was one that contained too much hardship for how old we were. We were too passionate and had a lot to learn about how to explain our feelings. So often they came out in unhealthy ways that left one of us hurt and broken. I hope your fiancé and you can communicate healthily so that every conversation doesn't end in tears. I thank you for teaching me that my parents are not always wrong and want the best for me. They see things that I am often blind to and I should trust them more, so thank you.

To my first real college boyfriend, it's weird cause we still see each other often and have mutual friends.

Our situation is not unlike most, we get to college for the first time and are meeting so many new people that we rush into a relationship just because we can. I want to thank you for being someone who I could also count as a friend while we were together. I want to thank you for teaching me to be sure of what I want and being bold enough to take it. You brought me out of my shell. You introduced me to some of the realities of the world. We both are in separate relationships now and seem to be thriving. I hope you guys are happy together and fulfill each other needs the way we didn't.

To the college boyfriend that I wanted so badly to work out.

Oh how badly I wanted this one to work. In my head, it seemed perfect and checked every box off my list. You were older and in a frat and I got along with your brothers. To be honest I was probably so caught up in being the Barbie and Ken of fsl (fraternity-sorority life for all the independents out there) I didn't really see that that was not what you wanted. You were so nice when you wanted to be and so I ran with the good times. I held onto them so tight that when you would do things that would tell me you didn't want to do this anymore, I would ignore them. You taught me many things, probably too many to count, but the main one was that you taught me that I deserved someone who made me a priority. You were a good person but at that point in time, you were an awful boyfriend. You taught me that I shouldn't always be the one initiating time to hang out. I shouldn't always be the one going the extra mile. You helped me learn to value myself.

To those who came after, you might not qualify as an ex, but deserve a segment just the same.

You all came into my life when I needed you. A time when I felt dejected and lonely. I want to thank you for doing what you did for me. Whether it was just a one-time coffee date or maybe we are still friends, all of you in little ways helped repair me by showing me I was worth being interested in, that I was funny and not gonna die alone if I put myself out there. As kind as all of you were, you also taught me that my worth is not defined by who I am with at that given moment. That I am fine by myself and I am capable of living my own life without someone next to me.

So to all of you, thank you.

Even though we might not have worked out in the long run, the things you have shown and taught me will last. They will continue to make me who I am and continue to feed what I believe about how relationships should function and work.

Thank you for being you and I really hope you are happy in every way possible because you will never just be an ex.

Literally, so hot RN

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12 Things To Know Before Dating A Girl Who Loves Country Singers More Than She Loves You

They’re just as important as you, babe.


If you're about to fall for a girl who falls for country singers, prepare yourself by knowing the following:

1. The playlist 

My playlist will go from Luke Combs to Blake Shelton and you'll have to deal with it. Your playlists are not an option. I will go on and on about how beautiful their voice is, but don't get jealous.

2. Releases

I will set alarms for new releases like Luke Combs "The Prequel" and you HAVE to be as excited as I am. I will be more excited about these releases than I am about anything else in life, but suck it up buttercup.

3. Concerts

I will give up time with you to go see my favorite singers and you’ll just have to understand. You can either join or not, but the plans aren’t changing.

4. Lyrics

You will hear me quote their lyrics more than I’ll say I love you, but just know I still love you.

5. Car rides

Every car ride will include country music, while it will most likely be Luke Combs or Adam Doleac blaring on the radio, you better enjoy every bit of it.

6. I will talk about how beautiful they are.

You’ll hear about their looks often, wether it be Luke Combs eyes or Luke Bryan’s voice, the looks will be brought up. Don’t get jealous, you’re just as handsome.

7. Their voices

Their voices are BEAUTIFUL. While I personally favor Luke Combs, just know I love yours too.

8. Phone backgrounds 

My phone background is most likely some country singer and not a picture of us, but you’re important, I promise.

9. Home Decor 

I will have pictures of Faren Rachels and I up before I have some of us, but realize I have plenty of pictures of us and one with her.

10. Awards

Whenever any awards are on, they’re number one priority compared to your Braves games. You can always watch recaps.

11. Singing 

I will randomly start singing any song by them and probably interrupt any story you're telling, sorry they're on my mind.

12. Dates

I will make sure any release dates for new songs, albums, or concerts are on my calendar; however, I will probably forget our anniversaries.

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I Asked 10 Brides What They Wish They Had Done Differently While Wedding Planning And Their Responses Ring True

When the engagement celebration sets in and the wedding planning begins, 10 brides give their advice on how to plan a kick-ass wedding.


Maybe it's just me, but I was almost in a state of denial after our engagement. I was on this cloud and I didn't want to start thinking about what's next. But a week later we started thinking about possible dates, venues, and budgets and that when the stress began— which wasn't fun.

It's hard not comparing one's wedding and planning processes to those of the movies and other friends. But every wedding is as different as the couple themselves are; that's what makes a wedding spectacular and amazing! So with wedding planning, I have found some of the best advice I have received has been from first-hand experience. These 10 Brides have something to say when asked the question, "What is one thing you wish you hadn't stressed so much when planning your wedding?"

1. Too much pressure on the event.

"Putting too much emphasis on the event, rather than the reason for being there. Make a commitment to God and each other to make it through the good and the bad times. That's what really matters!" Denise, married December 24th, 1994

2. Take in the moment and live it!

"About the wedding day being perfect, it's gonna go how it's gonna go. Don't stress about it, just take in the moment and live it. Oh and don't be a bridezilla. Ruins the day and the mood." Kayla, married December 9th, 2016

3. Do only what you want to do!

"Worrying about everyone else! It's YOUR DAY! Do only what you want to do!" Ashleigh, June 7th, 2017

4. Don't stress the small stuff!

" Planning wasn't that stressful for me! But when it came to the actual day, there were so many things that I was like, 'this literally doesn't matter.' Such as the flowers or decorations or the little details. Of course they were all great and everything looked amazing. But little details you don't even notice on your wedding day. For me, the day went by SOOO fast! Everything was so fast paced and so I didn't even have time to glance at the decorations table or card table. Don't stress the small stuff! Because on your actual day, it'll be the last thing on your mind! Because you'll just wanna see your groom so bad that nothing else matters!" Kelsie, married August 19th, 2018

5. Too many little details that nobody else cared about.

"Too many little details that nobody else cared about that I cared about too much! So much time went into it which I loved, but it's more about spending time with all the people that you love in your life! They don't care how much money you spend on the day or if everything goes perfectly. They just want you to have a good day and they want to celebrate you and your love and marriage!" Savannah, married October 1st, 2017

6. It's about you and your spouse.

"How much other people thought things are important to them. Dang this is my day and what's important to me and my spouse is what matters. It's about us." Denise, married July 28th, 2007.

7. Having the "perfect picture" like everyone else in my mind had.

"Definitely all the details that you don't really notice, like the seating chart at the reception. Don't stress about getting things done the week of the wedding, if it doesn't get done then it doesn't get done. You're going to get married regardless and no one will even notice it. I also had to keep reminding myself, it's about the marriage, not the wedding. Pictures/video were a big thing I stressed about because I wanted it all to be "perfect" pictures like everyone else in my mind had...I spent so much time finding pictures and trying to match those pictures that I didn't enjoy the picture finding process. I would also say that the night before the wedding don't stress too much about all the details that you hadn't gotten to because it's going to be beautiful and you need sleep, especially if you are going on your honeymoon right away because then you wind up sick...
One big one I stressed about a lot was how well all the pinks in my wedding matched (I'm OCD) Cloth napkins, table runners, the bridesmaid dresses, to the decorations." Presley, married August 18th, 2018

8. The guest list

"Honestly I stressed about the guest list the most and still do even now. Since my fiance and I are both from a small town and both have big families, it took us quite a while to get the guest list figured out. Our wedding budget was also a factor in determining how many people we wanted to have as well. At the wedding you want people there that are an influence on your life and it's hard looking back thinking of all the people that have been a part of it over the last many years. Once that was figured out it was a big relief, but it has also been fun planning everything. Even the guest list." -Morgan, getting married in June of 2019.

9. Thinking too much about making it different or comparable to other weddings.

"I'm a people-pleaser by nature. And because we are young I worried about people looking at our wedding and judging based on what we didn't have. I compared it too much to my other friends' weddings, YouTuber's weddings, and the stuff you see in the movies. And finances were a big stress in the early stages as well. But once we took a step back to just process what our wedding meant to us as a couple and what we want our marriage to be, we were able to lighten up a lot and have more fun! Yes, we had to refocus our finances and savings, but really we just kept reminding one another that this was one day to the rest of our lives together as husband and wife. The best is yet to come. - Megan (Me) Getting married in September of 2019!

It's easy to get into the mindset that your wedding has to be "perfect" and it has to look like weddings in the movies or in the pictures of other people. But that's what's amazing about weddings. They are uniquely yours. If you have a hard time getting out of this mindset like I do a lot of the time, just think about your fiance. Remember that you are committing forever to the one you love. Marriage is more than just one day.

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