Why I Stopped Planning My Wedding On Pinterest

Why I Stopped Planning My Wedding On Pinterest

Try as much as possible to be wholly alive with all your might.

I can classify myself as one of the very few people who hates planning for her future. I completed all of my college applications in December, the week before the deadlines because I was so scared to make the wrong decision, and I stopped planning my "future wedding" and my "future home" on Pinterest because it stressed me out to even think about how I was going to get that far. I even hate the "year at a glance" section in my planner and talking about things farther than 5 months away. It terrifies me. It makes me feel as if I need to live each day trying to predict the future from my actions, instead of living in the moment, which is such a stressful way to live.

I think a lot of people are like me too. Scared. Scared to fail, scared to disappoint the people around them, scared of responsibility, scared of consequences, scared to do better than somebody else, and ultimately scared of not knowing what will happen next.

As much as a person might come across as "having it all together" with a planned out future, they don't. It isn't realistic. Life is a rollercoaster is full of ups and downs, and sometimes it has to be closed for repairs. We face surprise obstacles and challenges and situations that change an outcome so fast, and there is nothing we can do to make sure everything goes our way. Accepting that we, as humans, don't have the power to change every little that gets in our way is a good start of trying to live graciously in the now.

This past July, I had the worst birthday yet. Not because anything in particular happened, but the sheer and utter truth that by turning 19, I only had one more year to be a teenager. I realized that I had one more year until I technically needed to figure out where exactly my life was going.

But the truth that I faced is that we never really need to know exactly where we are going, no matter how disorganized and scary it might sound. It just isn't possible.

We have to accept that we don't need to be scared of the unknown. Just letting it happen and letting it be is all that we can really do. What's the fun of having everything planned out with no room for spontaneity?

It's important to take each moment as it comes with a grateful heart and add it to the multitudes of experiences that have shaped you into you are, no matter what it is. The future will come as it does and all we can do is trust in His plan and be fully alive in what is happening right now.

One of my most favorite quotes regarding this concept of living in the now comes from my boy Ernest Hemingway and is so inspiring:

"Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat, and when you sleep, really try to sleep. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell. And when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough."

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6 Things I've Learned By Being Married For 6 Months

Being married to your best friend is the best thing ever, and with these tips, it will make your marriage even better!


I cannot believe that I have been married for half a year already! My does time fly. In that time, we have lived in two places in two different states, drove cross country, made friends, started a new job, and had several Pinterest dinner fails.

The best part of being married is that you get to do life with your very best friend. Since we are coming up on six months, I thought of six pieces of advice for those who are married, are about to get married, or if you're just curious.

I am NOT a marriage expert, but I have learned a few things since being married for six months:

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11 Justin Bieber Songs To Play As You Mourn His Engagement To Hailey Baldwin Instead Of You

"What Do You Mean" you can't be my "Boyfriend," JB?


Everyone remembers their first love. Mine was a kid with brown, shaggy hair, an adorable smile, and the voice of an angel. I remember seeing him online for the first time when I was 11-years-old, and to this day, I just can't shake him. That beautiful boy's name was Justin Drew Bieber.

Everyone also remembers their first heartbreak. It's the shattering pain that's felt in your chest when you realize that your person will never be yours. It's the tears that form in your eyes when you hear his voice, and it's the progressive, sinking feeling of loneliness. It's like drowning in sorrow. It's the agony of rejection.

My first REAL heartbreak was felt this week when I read that Justin Bieber became engaged... to someone else.

I went to Justin's "Believe" concert when I was a freshman in high school, and I would have done anything to be the "One Less Lonely Girl" that he brought onstage and sang to in front of millions of jealous eyes. Although he didn't choose me, I have dreamed for countless years of him wrapping his arms around me and singing my favorite songs from all of his albums.

I know every word to every one of his songs. I have his birthday, March 1st, in my phone's calendar as "JB Day." I wore purple in middle school because I knew that was his favorite color. Does Hailey freakin' Baldwin know his favorite color or watch his documentary or cry at his concert because it was the happiest day of her life? Hm... I think not.

If you're a true Belieber like me, a person who loved him through the good times and bad, have his albums on repeat, and melt at the sight of all of his music videos, then you understand the heartbreak I felt when he announced his engagement.

Here are 11 Justin Bieber songs to cry to and relate to as you mourn the death of your non-existent relationship.

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