To The Girl Who Keeps Waiting For Him To 'Get Better,' He Won't

Don't settle. You hear it all the time, from your professors who motivate and challenge you, from your parents who only want the best for you, from your friends who want to go out, party, and have a good time.

Don't. Settle.

No matter how much your ears bleed because of how often the statement is thrown around, there are truths and validity to the saying. Especially at a young age, it's very easy to find comfort in a partner even though the relationship comes with plenty of heartaches. The association produces stress rather than bliss, but you remain. Why?

I won't lie, I used to be one of those girls who refused to "give up on someone." I didn't want to because romantic relationships are very influential in my life and, quite frankly, a big deal. I don't take it lightly. Not including my current relationship, I've had one other serious affair. It was as serious as it can get and he had my heart in his hand. I chose this one person out of all the fish in the sea and the thought of just walking away was ludicrous. If you chose an individual, you try to make it work.

But there was an issue: I depended on the future getting better, easier, less complicated.

It's true that people mature, develop, and change over time, but when it comes to romance, don't stay becuase of the idea or hope that it will get better.

Chrissy Teigen may have told John Legend, "No," when he first complained of their relationship way back when, but when I attempted to break up with an ex who retorted, "No, I'll change," I was cautious to stay, but complied. Although Legend and Teigen have happily figured it out as their issue was senseless and, now, comical to reminisce about, my ex never changed. At every attempt I made to divide ourselves, I ended up abiding by him and waiting for a miraculous transformation.

I waited. And lingered.

Walk away. Trust me, I learned it the hard way, and you don't want to feel like you wasted a period of your life.

After a messy breakup and the realization that people don't change for others and solely for themselves, I was stronger than ever. People can change, but only if it's instituted by their self-soul.

You only have one life! Woah, maybe YOLO isn't so useless. Don't waste your life, energy, and breath on someone who doesn't reciprocate. They could be the most amazing, kindest being on the planet, but that doesn't mean you can have a meaningful, lasting relationship with them. If there are troubles in the beginning, there will be detrimental challenges all throughout until the tumultuous end.

Although I don't regret my past connections, the experiences I gained, the person I've become, after the split, I was distressed at the thought that I misspent my high school career on a terminated commitment. In reality, I didn't fritter away this time becuase I learned a valuable lesson about my own confidence, independence, and strength. I'm grateful for the hardships, but, most importantly, now I know when to walk away.

There are differences between bumps in the road and entire divisions of tectonic plates.

Personally, I have a few lover-problems in mind that will assure the action of me leaving a relationship. For instance, if my boyfriend mandated what I wore or who I could talk to or if he was disinterested in the problems I bring up in the relationship. Bye. I'm gone. They've lost their opportunity.

I don't mean to be so pessimistic, but, at the end of the day, he won't change: once a cheater, always a cheater. Take it from Khloe Kardashian who has endured way too many relationship scars. Have a price tag! Don't fall for every guy who compliments your beauty, gives you an ounce of attention or calls you "the one." Never forget your worth.

Wait for the guy who collaborates with you and attempts to develop the issues found in the relationship. Acknowledge that no bond is perfect. When two human beings with unique complexes come together, there are bound to be issues, arguments, and battles, but the challenge is in recognizing that certain personality traits will never change.

Red flags are warning signs for a reason, take them seriously. Don't Settle.

SEE ALSO: "Girls Don't Want The 'Nice Guy,' They Want A Project They Can Fix"

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Before You Double Text Read These 10 Reasons On Why He Hasn't Responded To Your Text

If he has left your last message on 'Read' or 'Delivered' here is why.


It's all fun and games until your newest boo doesn't text you back. You're panicking wonder if you did something or how busy are they to not have responded to you. It's a shot to your pride when you are contemplating sending a double text, so you type a message and delete it, just to repeat the same process over.

1. He is overwhelmed with school

School can be very stressful at times, and everyone processes that stress differently. He may be able to give you the attention you desire because his proprieties lie with his academics.

2. He is not interested and doesn’t know how to tell you

Communicating is important, but not all guys know how to. He does not want to hurt your feelings, so instead of telling you straight up he is not interested, he just doesn't give you any more of a reason to be interested in him.

3. Your last message was not response worthy

Whether it was a bad joke or a dying conversation, he did not feel the need to respond. He did not feel like the conversation was worth continuing or that he could bring anymore excitement to it.

4. You are making assumptions about him

Don't make assumptions about a guy and push those assumptions upon him. If you want to grow with him, you can't believe everything you hear. Guys find it disrespectful when you take false information and try to use it against them.

5. He is busy

If he is apart of athletics, has a job or takes part in any extracurricular activities his amount of free time is very minimal. Scrolling through twitter feed or Instagram is a force of habit, but texting takes a little more energy he is not willing to use.

6. He is napping

Boys sleep. A lot. They stay up all night playing video games and get exhausted during the day. His phone is probably on Do Not Disturb while he takes a three hour nap, just to wake up and forget to take his phone off Do Not Disturb.

7. He has heard rumors

You have potentially done something in your past that he is not fond of and he would rather not continue talking to you. Whatever has been said, he believes it and does not see a point in continuing something with you.

8. Someone else is occupying his time

No girl wants to deal with the thought of her guy dealing with another woman, but there is always a chance. He may not be giving you attention because his attention is with another a girl. He trying to play both sides of the fence but cannot equally give you you both all his time. You just so happen to be the girl that receives the lesser of his time.

9. Playing video games

You know it. I know it. We all know it. Guys are addicted to the controller. Whether it be Fortnite or 2K, they are always some how online gaming. They game for hours and do not want to take a break to text you back.

10. He forgot

Boring, but true. Once he forgets to reply he probably won't reply period. Once forgotten, they typically feel like there is no point and it is just too late to say something back. If you see him in person, don't take it personal, make a funny joke out of it and forget it ever happened.

Now you no longer have to wonder why he hasn't texted you back. There are so many reasons why guys don't respond or even text back hours later. You have to decide whether it is because of his schedule or if he is up to no good.

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9 Perfect Reactions To The Invasive Questions Every Woman's Family Asks During The Holidays

I'd rather talk about the weather.


Going home for the holidays can be the highlight of the season. Free food and socializing with your family can be a stress relieving experience.

Everyone wants to catch up on how you're doing and how college is going.

Unfortunately, after your 21st birthday, people start asking about "milestones" in your life. People want to know when you're getting married and having kids.

These questions are especially invasive for women who do not plan to get married or have children. If you are asked one of these nine questions, here are the perfect reactions to them.

1. "Are you seeing anyone new?"

Trust me, if I was seeing someone new, then you would have heard about it. I would have run into this house and told everyone about my new bae. Since that did not happen, you should assume I'm very single. Find me a full-time college student with a job that has time to look for a partner.

2. "Are you still seeing [insert name of ex-partner]?"

Nope, I'm not. Did you notice that I didn't mention their name in the last 20-minute conversion that we've had? Or that they're not here meeting the family. Just assume that they're canceled and never going to be spoken about again.

3. "Have you lost weight? It will help you find a boyfriend."

Do not ask about my weight when we're about to sit down to a 2,000 calorie meal. Have you lost weight? That's what I'd like to know.

4. "When can we meet your partner?"

Considering that they're not currently here with us, the answer is no. It's too soon and I'm not ready for them to meet my crazy family. Remember, I want him to like me.

5. "Are you planning on getting married?"

Do you see a ring on my finger? That's how you'll know I'm getting married. Turn your Facebook notifications on and you'll be very up-to-date on the state of our marriage.

6. "Do you want to have a big wedding?"

0/10 do I want to have a big wedding. Just for asking, you are not invited.

7. "How many kids do you want to have?"

Stop. Asking. Women. About. Having. Kids. There are many women who do not want children or cannot have children. If I didn't bring it up keep your thoughts to yourself or ask someone else.

8. "Do you want to be a stay-at-home mom?"

Have you asked my partner if they're staying at home with the baby? No? Then don't ask me. If my partner isn't expected to stay home, neither should I.

9. "Are you moving back home?"

I haven't decided if I'm moving back yet. If you want to pay my rent, you can let me know.

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